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How To You Know If You’re Interesting?

A lot of guys worry about being interesting. After all, if you expect women to be interested in you, you have to be interesting yourself, right? Nobody, including women, enjoys talking to someone who has nothing to say, so it’s only natural that this should weigh on any aspiring PUA’s mind.
It’s really not that hard to be interesting. It doesn’t take tremendous amounts of wealth and power. And truth be told, with most guys it’s not even an issue; usually, when people think that they’re boring, it’s because they lack self-confidence, rather than interesting qualities. But just to be on the safe side, read up on the following points, and make sure you’re doing everything you can to avoid lameness.
If you’re bored, then you’re boring
Ever hear this expression? It’s true; if you mope around constantly, bored out of your skull, wishing for something fun to do, you’re not a very interesting person. If you want to be interesting, your life has to be interesting.
So if you fit this description, what’s to be done? Simple: anything! Go out with some friends, see movies, hit up the bars, whatever. Play sports, pick up a hobby, or take a class or two. Sitting at home waiting for something interesting to do is useless; you have to go out and make it happen. This is how you get conversation topics, stories to impress people with and whatnot. They’re not just going to show up on your doorstep, you have to go out looking for them.
“Don’t dream it, be it!”
I used to have a friend who was obsessed with Rocky Horror Picture Show, and she took this quote as her personal battle cry. She was one of the most interesting people I’ve ever met. When we went to parties, if she didn’t know everyone when we got there, she would by the time we left. People were drawn to her because she was full of interesting stories: places she’d been, people she’d met, concerts she’d seen, crazy things she’d done or seen people do while drunk. Yeah, some strangers were initially freaked out by the red wig and French maid’s uniform, but everybody warmed up once she started talking.
The point is, she had all these interesting stories because she did interesting things. So take your tip from Dr. Frank: don’t dream about all the things you want to do, go out and do them. Like football? Join a league. Want to learn how to windsurf? Take lessons. Doing the things you’re interested in makes you a multi-faceted, interesting person; bear this in mind, and you’ll never be nervous about talking about yourself again.
Don’t pretend to be something you’re not
We touched on this subject in some of our videos on cocky comedy; lying is not the way to be interesting. Once you start trying to impress a woman with lies, you end up having to tell more and more, just to cover the original lie. And once she catches on to this, you’ve got a next-to-nothing chance of making her interested.
Liars come across as pathetic and boring. If you get caught in a lie, you’ll seem even less interesting than if you hadn’t said anything at all. So remember our pick up golden rule: be genuine. Don’t make stuff up. Go out and do it. Your wild stories are only going to work if you’ve got the experience to back them up.
If you’re keeping to these guidelines, you’ve got nothing to worry about. And most of you don’t; as I mentioned above, it’s common to worry about being interesting, even if you’re a pretty interesting guy already. So if you’re active in doing the things you’re into, don’t sweat it. And if you’re not, what are you still reading for? Get started today! You have to do interesting things to be interesting. Don’t let life pass you by. And if you still need motivation, just think: plenty of women are out there doing the things you want to be doing right this second. Being involved in activities doesn’t just give you something to talk about–it gives you the chance to meet women to talk about them with.

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